They say that if you love something or someone deeply, set it free. If it comes back it is yours. if it does not. It never was. Easy to say,yet so difficult to do. There is a period in all our lives, where we have to take the reins of our life and move on.A time where we feel we only have ourselves despite the many people who empathize and sympathize with us. This is the time we get closer to ourselves and truly understand what it is like to be alone and face life as it surges forward on its course.Time is the only thing that moves on and on and often we are left behind, wallowing in self pity, remorse and trying to come to terms with the harsh realities of life.
The bottom line is that everyone will need to journey on this rough passage, through a maze of devastation, shock, loneliness, anger, confusion, fear, and depression. However, there can also be acceptance and new beginnings. These things happen as nothing is forever.
Yes, losing someone is hard we’ve all gone through it, we've all cried and thought it would never end. But life does go on, and it actually gets much better. Knowing something true does not make it what we wish it to be. We see things not as they are but as we are. Though feelings are strange and minds' eyes look through veiled souls, in the end it is not our despair that we should fear but rather it is our tenacity. It sets aflame hope where hope shouldn’t lucid linger, because sometimes pride can scar more than hurt.the first step to moving on is accepting our loss.Its ok to cry. pain is necessary and so are tears. The simple way out of pain is to cry till you’re dry. This is normal part of grief. Don't allow yourself to get caught up with having to do things within a certain time frame. You'll know the right time to empty drawers and closets and deal with personal items like wallets and purses. Wait until you are ready.
However in life,there comes a time when we feel its time we let go. There is no specific time frame for it,it just happens. Self help books often suggest techniques on ‘effective moving on’ but in reality how effective are they? How can a book tell you something that your inner self is unsure of? Sure they help. Imagine you’re broken into a million pieces and browsing through a book store. You come across a bright book telling you a million things to get over the past, you are prone to edge towards it since your heart is craving for something to hold onto, some solace that reassures you that you are going to get better soon. These books aid us in moving on, and not getting over it. The most essential fact is acceptance from deep within, to come to terms with reality.
The best example of moving on can be cited from the life of Mr.Siddharth Jaykumar, a 29 year old who is 80% disabled. Sid is a victim of cerebral palsy and goes about his life using one finger. He eats with it, types with it, does everything a normal human does using one tiny finger. Moreover he works as an executive with ABN AMRO bank and is one of their top employees. Sid has accepted his disability and come to terms with it. This has made him ‘move on’ to do better things, anything he could achieve within his limits and he is getting there. This is the true essence of moving on…
On taking a closer look, we find that most disabled people are far more optimistic and determined to make it there than we, the fully abled people are. This is because we find tiny limitations to curb our life while these people have crossed bigger difficulties on their journey. This has made them harder and molded them to move on with ease…
We all need to internalize the fact that change is the only permanent factor in our lives. All our life, things around us keep changing, be it family,friends,life situations, our crushes,jobs,fancies…We have come miles from the way we were ten years ago. Even looking back to the last year there are times when we feel ‘Oh gosh! Did I really feel that way?’ this is because every moment we are moving on too… Nothing stays forever. And accepting this factor is the most difficult of it all. But everyone moves on… and everything becomes a part of the beautiful journey called life
Life’s not about reaching the destination, its all about the journey…and every journey has twists and turns, hard rocky lanes and difficult terrains. This is what moving on is all about…. Of letting go of the past, and taking hold of each tiny moment in the present….and difficult as it may seem, it makes you a better person and makes the journey all the more worthwhile. So here’s a toast to all those who have moved on , who have faced loss and felt like their life has lost all meaning…its time to realize that if changes for the better did not occur, butterflies would never exist… If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page.
